Kai Michael Bouris
Thank you for visiting this site. I appreciate that it takes a measure of courage to even consider doing somatic sex therapy and education.
So, a little bit about me.
First of all, I’m passionate about my work. There are immense cultural barriers for people to get the sex and intimacy they really desire. I’m working to change that – to help people heal from past traumas and learn the skills they need to find an expression of their sexuality that is congruent with their unique identity and desires.
I’ve been dedicated to this work for over 18 years, helping hundreds of clients. I’ve lead many workshops and seminars on sensual bodywork, tantra, consent and sensual communication skills. I’m well known and respected in Vancouver and regularly receive referrals from doctors and sex therapists.
Through this real life experience, I’ve developed the ability to help my clients define their goals and reach them as quickly as possible, while supporting the organic unfolding of each client’s unique journey.
In this journey there are many times when it’s necessary to let go of all the goals and respond to what is arising in the moment. I move easily between structure and improvisation. I know when to lead, follow, or patiently be with whatever is happening right now.
I’m fun and I’ve got a wry sense of humour. Sex is, after all, one of the few areas where adults are really allowed to play. I have an irrepressibly wild and playful spirit which finds creative expression in my work. I’m also really comfortable with the Awkward Moment – real intimacy has lots of them.
I have a strong ethics and boundaries which guide my work. They can be summed up as follows.
I value and protect my clients privacy and confidentiality.
I’m extremely focused on helping my clients find voice and choice in all learning activities that happen. Consent. Consent. Consent.
It’s all about you. I wrote a whole piece on that one.
Finally, I continue to do my own personal work and keep current with the latest developments in somatic sex education – a rapidly evolving field. I strive to show up for my clients with expertise, authenticity and genuine caring.
Through years of study I’ve developed a comprehensive understanding of the interplay of body, mind, emotion and relationship in regards to sex and intimacy. I’m well equipped with tools to work in all these areas. Here are some of my educational highlights:
2018 – Intimacy Educator Program with Caffyn Jesse at Eros Spirit
2015 – Certified Hakomi Practitioner with the Vancouver Hakomi Network
2014 – Yoga Teacher Certification – 200 hours, with Lidija Maritinovic, The Yoga Wheel, Vancouver
2007-2008 – Touch Like a Pro, Boundaries in the Context of Professional Sexual Touch Training with Dr. Betty Martin, Seattle
2007 – Sexological Bodywork Certification, with Joseph Kramer at the Institute for Advanced Study in Human Sexuality, San Francisco
2005-2007 – Tantra Instructor’s Certification and a 2 year internship, with Maryse Coté, Ishtara School of Tantra, Vancouver
2004 – Lomi Lomi Massage Certification with Shaeah Fialkow, Vancouver
1990 – Bachelor of Engineering, Honours, Royal Military College, Kingston